The Path You Take

[srfranci]

Lack of belief in oneself is a killer. It doesn’t help you at all. You need no one else but yourself to turn things around. Here are few-encouraging words that help put a little faith into yourself:

-Think of your dream and imagine yourself reaching that. Always thinking that you’re capable of succeeding can help the thought sink into your subconscious. Remember, failure begins with disbelief.
-Stop thinking of what you can’t do but begin to think of the things that you can do. Be a “yes” type of person. At least to yourself.
-When grabbing opportunities, place your heart into it. Again, believe that you’ll make things happen this time around.
-Think BIG, believe BIG. As that realistic proverb says, “Aim for the roof, you fall on the floor. Aim for the sky and you fall on the roof.” But just concentrate on soaring upwards.

As you can see, it’s all in the mind. Start with positive thoughts and the rest will follow.
Life in my opinion is a series of winning and losing. There will come a time when you will have to experience failure, one way or another. If you have always gotten what you want, the harder it will be for you to cope with losing. Some people say you can always refuse to lose. But losing is inevitable, and when it happens to you, you have to accept it the most graceful way you can.
For those of you who believe in faith, there’s a prayer that goes something like, “…help me to accept the things that I cannot change…” We all like to be in control. But in reality, we are almost never in control. This is because things don’t always go as you planned it. When you lose, you lose. The faster you accept defeat, the faster you’ll get over it. understand that the past and the future are not in your hands but you're the master of the present moment so stop regretting the past and stop day dreaming. Success is not a goal, it is a path built of failures so remember there is no success with out failure. realize that you're on the path of success and learn from your mistakes. Train your mind to listen to you with regular practice. You can do this by concentrating your mind on your breath. Force your mind to listen to you. After initial resistance, it will automatically submit itself to you. 'Till now your mind was a weakness to you. Now start converting it into your strength. Your confidence will automatically be built and remember, never ever have expectations. It leads to nothing but misery. Do your duty and nothing else. Happiness is also not a goal to be achieved. Instead its a way of life to be lived. It is more of a duty than right to lead a happy life. Happiness comes from within but not from the external world. To be happy, simply live a life of detachment. Be prepared for both the worst and the best. Remain neutral. Observe yourself every moment. The feelings you are developing objectively don't react to any of the situations. Do not develop any craving or aversion towards your life because every thing keeps changing. In life nothing lasts so it is foolish to develop any feeling towards something not at all in our control. Separate the facts from emotions. You can not control facts which are occurring, but you are free to choose your emotional response to these facts. Always be positive and consider the positive aspect of life along with the negative aspects of life equally, and utilize them for your personal development. If you want to change your life, then you have to help yourself change your actions. You can do this by setting small goals for yourself. When you are successful then you will gain confidence in yourself and set slightly larger goals. Try to focus on your good points, believe in yourself and love yourself. Make a point of once a day focusing on all your good points and feel happy with yourself. I can say that I am learning to like myself. I am not perfect, but I am a nice caring person that tries to be a good person, I am allowed to fail sometimes, as I am not perfect.